Reflect on the last time you met someone new. Think about how you felt as you introduced yourself. Were you instantly comfortable? Or was there a hint of uneasiness? The energy between was either positive or negative, and probably not at all related to the way the person was dressed, or how they wore their hair. It was just something that either made you feel like hanging around and talking, or making an excuse to leave. That was energy. We feel energy, though we do not see it. Energy between people exists. Call it what you like - familiarity, connection, in sync, out of sync, instant bond, love at first sight, good vibes, kismet, whatever. Energy moves back and forth between people, and either feels pleasant, or not; and relates directly to element compatibility. If you doubt me, check it out for yourself. The next time you are around someone you feel very connected to, or vice versa, ask their birthdate, do the math, and you will likely discover his or her Feng shui element is either in or out of sync with your own. Relationship based care (RBC) studies are popping up quite a bit lately as a means to enhance patient well-being and slow the progression of dementia. This book takes the question a step further with my own observations of more than 200 different care relationships with my mother. I have found time and again a link between caregivers' personal elements and compatibility with Mom - enough so to prompt the writing of this book.